Knowing the Reality of Married Life
Improve Love Relationship by Learning the Reality of Married Life
“Be careful and discreet; it is much easier to get married than unmarried. If you have the right mate, it is heavenly, but if not, you will live in a 24 hour daily hell that clings constantly to you, it can be one of the most bitter thing in life” – the following advice is quoted from the book “Of Suchness” from John F. Robinson.
Love is strange and cannot be explained using words, somehow when you have found the right one, you will know it in your heart, “Yes, she or he is the one!” and this feeling is not carried away by unreasoned passion or love. In contrast , some people might be driven into blind acts by the powerful urges of sex and this feeling cannot be totally trusted. This is especially true in a situation when one drinks too much and cannot think clearly. Love is much more than sex even though it is the biological foundation between a male and a female.
Marriage Life Problem
In our daily life, we hear people complaining about their marriage, even in news where people committed suicide over broken marriage, extreme cases where wife kills husband or vice versa and many more but in rare cases that we hear stories about a happy marriage. Those who read romantic novels and watch romantic films often come to an illusive conclusion that marriage is a bed of roses. Unfortunately back in reality, marriage is not always as sweet as one thinks. Marriage and problems are inter-related and wheh people get married, they will have to face unexpected problems and responsibilities that they have never experienced before.
It is true to most of us that marriage is an important event in our life, but it is even more important to ensure a successful wedding. To ensure that, a couple has to come into agreement in their life by minimizing the difference and frictions between them. In an ancient belief, there can only be a peaceful marriage if the marriage is between a blind wife and a deaf husband, because for the blind wife, she cannot see the faults of the husband and a deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife.
Building Love Relationship with Sharing and Trust
One of the key killer cause that leads to marital problem is suspicion and mistrust that is due to a lack of understanding. The couple should show absolute trust for each other and try not to have secrets between themselves. Why is it so? This is because secrets is the creator of suspicion, suspicion in term leads to jealousy , jealousy generates anger, anger will cause friction and enmity and these elements will lead to broken marriage.
3 Important advices for a strong and happy marriage
1. The couple can console each other and minimise their unhappiness if they can share pain and pleasure in their daily life.
2. To live together with better understanding, the couple must discuss mutual problems between themselves.
3. Man and woman need the comfort of each other during the time of difficulties or when problems crops up. You will feel more secured and happy if there is someone who is willing to share and overcome the burdens together.
Understanding Material Needs
Love by itself does not substain on fresh air and sunshine alone, especially in this modern and materislistic world we are in. We must meet our material needs, essential budgeting and proper financing in order to live comfortably. There is a saying, “When poverty knocks at the door, love flies through the window.” This does not imply that you must be rich to have a happy marriage, however if one has the basic necessities of life provided, many unnecessary anxieties can be prevented or removed from a marriage.
The uneasiness of poverty can be avoided if complete strong understanding is developed between the couple. Both husand and wife must understand the value of contentment and both must treat all problems as “OUR problem” and share all “Ups” and “Downs” and this will lead to a long lasting life partnership.